Week of Prayer & Fasting - Day 3 | Solitude
Shana Mason
"But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray." - Luke 5:16
Solitude / sol·i·tude /ˈsäləˌtoo͞d: the state or situation of being alone.
“Without solitude it is virtually impossible to live a spiritual life... We do not take the spiritual life seriously if we do not set aside some time to be with God and listen to him.”– Henri Nouwen
In our digital age, are we ever truly alone? Lonely, certainly at times. But I can spend my “alone time” with any number of YouTubers, musical artists, TV show casts, preachers, podcasters, or social media influencers. I’m technically alone, but not solo. I can fill the silence with whatever I want at the click of a button. In the quiet, every screen—perhaps all technology—is making a subtle bid for my attention. In only the last 24 hours, I’ve asked various strangers on Instagram to weigh in on how to prune trees, how to market a book, and how to master the Disney Dining Plan. My silence and solitude is easily-divided, easily-distracted, and easily-disrupted.
Jesus did not model this kind of solitude. Luke 5:15-16 tells us, “But now even more the report about him went abroad, and great crowds gathered to hear him and to be healed of their infirmities. But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray.”
A “desolate place” is free of entertainment and distraction. It’s also probably not somewhere you’d be excited to go to for fun. However, our Biblical heroes like Moses, Elijah, Esther, David, or Paul—like Jesus—modeled a very present, intentional, “desolate place” form of solitude.
They set themselves apart—temporarily, but consistently. Biblical solitude withdraws from the noise and the demands of daily life to focus on God. A solitude of silence, reflection, meditation, and prayer. This type of solitude is different than the “getaways” that the world offers. It’s not simply being alone or getting a bit of “me time.” In the words of pastor John Mark Comer, “Solitude is a place that’s free of all inputs. The only inputs are God and your own heart laid open before God.”
This type of solitude reconnects us to ourselves, rather than distracting us from our own thoughts. It reconnects us to God, rather than drowning out His still small voice. Solitude positions us to hear from God.
Sometimes, I think we expect God to shout at us. We fill up all our time; we fill up all our silence. Then we wonder why God hasn’t been speaking to us. We want God to reach us where we are, rather than seeing that we might need to change up our pace, our place, or our priorities. Isaiah 40:31 tells us, “Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.”
This set-apart time comes with a promise of strength and renewal. How often do we expect to find strength and renewal from just zoning out with a TV show or doomscrolling on social media? How often do those things actually deliver what we’re looking for?
God’s ways are always the best ways. Even when everything in us wants to avoid this Biblical form of silence and stillness. Galatians 5:17 tells us, “For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.”
If you’re anything like me, you often want to practice solitude and then all of your coping mechanisms start jumping in the way—ideas, responsibilities, entertainment, and smart devices produce an escape. Solitude often puts us face-to-face with the thoughts, feelings, and experiences that we’re avoiding. The things we push down and try to ignore rise back to the surface. Addressing all this with the Lord is what I want to do! And then the internal war rages against it. My flesh and my spirit compete for opposing desires. Solitude forces the fight in a way that gives way to growth, healing, and fulfillment.
Solitude is an essential ingredient for fulfilling what Romans 12:2 talks about. “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Do not fear the process by which God will transform you for His perfect plan.
So this week, I’d love for you to reflect and try practicing solitude.
How do you do with solitude?
What renewal are you seeking from the Lord?
When is the last time you prioritized silence and stillness?
Wait on the Lord today.

















